Fear Can Keep You from Living an Amazing Life
As my friends The OolaGuys say: You are designed by God for greatness and a purpose. But many times that greatness and purpose are stopped by fear.
Did you know?
There are only two innate fears that all human beings are born with: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Every other fear is learned. And what can be learned can be unlearned.
If you don’t like communicating bad news to your boss, for instance . . . if you’ve got a fear of public speaking or flying or enclosed spaces —realize that these feelings have grown over time or stem from a specific incident. You can take steps to remove these fears — especially if they’re keeping you from accomplishing something you want to do.
There’s a formula The OolaGuys recommend to help you eliminate fear and move forward toward your goals.
It’s called the Ready-Set-Go Formula, and it works like this:
First, if you’re facing fear, get ready to move past it by calling it out: I’m afraid people at the gym will be looking at me. I’m afraid to ask for a promotion. I’m afraid I’m not qualified enough. Identify your fear.
Next, set your fear in its place by putting it in proper perspective. Ask yourself, What will my life look like if I give into my fear? Will your life get better or worse? Will you be wealthier, less stressed, more influential, slimmer, or some other positive change — or will your life be diminished? If so, how? Additionally, ask yourself, What will my life look like if I overcome this fear — if I do the work and take action to push through it? Will your life be better or worse? Will you get the promotion, heal the relationship, feel better about yourself, or some other positive change? Set your fear in perspective.
Finally, just go! Determine one gutsy step you can take now, in this moment, that requires only 20 seconds of courage, but which will help you overcome what you’re feeling and help you move you closer to your goal. Whether it’s to send an email, make that call, research the solution, or write down your talking points, determine the one courageous action you could take — then go do it.
What’s the 20 seconds of courage you’ll take today? Comment below and tell me. Then, watch tomorrow for the final day of our 7-Day Oola Challenge: a surprisingly effective way to reach your goals in record time.